The Work Universe – 1

 

Social and Wealth Divisions

The claim is being made that we have a very vibrant economy with very low unemployment. The reality is something else entirely. Yes, a lot of money is being made by some, but others are working more than one job just to get by. This is not the country of opportunity we have always said we must have.

A Complex Set of Issues

Decades ago I took a job serving the impoverished inner city of Baltimore. As I’ve said previously I was guided out into the streets by a woman social worker and gradually I came to see a new complex reality. How naive we can be!

Shortly another staffer showed up and I did not expect it. He was a vocational rehabilitation counselor. I was there to give mental health services – or so I thought. But there was a need to find employment for people in this poverty environment and I could do evaluations to help in making choices.  I pitched in and learned the complexity of the work. Long after I left that particular job I continued doing such evaluations.

The New America

The other day my wife and I boarded a plane to go to the college graduation of a granddaughter. The plane was filled with an unexpected diversity showing us the presence of people of such heritages as African, Asian and Latin in such numbers that we were surprised. At the first stop they all exited and the plane was loaded with almost all white Americans. It was truly puzzling, but showed who we are in this country and our growing complexity.  This is truly a new and complex America and we need to pay attention.

The World of Work

And over the decades I’ve come to see the complexity of job skills. In this series I’m going to address diverse issues. The issues are complex and important. And one of the issues that cannot be separated is the wealth division. It affects education and the development of

available work. Wealth is flowing to the few which is straining our society in terrible ways. It appears the last time this happened was in the late 1920s. Changes were forced by the Great Depression and World War II.  It would be better if we now faced what lies before us in all its complexity.

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Don’t Miss My Developing Gaia’s Majesty Trilogy

I refer to it as a work of magical realism. It is a series with a strong mythological element and a real world setting in this time when women are being empowered at last. It is a time of wonder and awakening for all of humankind.

Gaia’s Majesty-Mission Called: Women in Power – Book 1

Avery had dedicated her life to work for the future of third world women. Her life was enhanced when she met the man who became the love of her life. They could not know that they shared a destiny and that a mission set long ago by our Earth Goddess was to be revealed before 

them. 

Available Now in Kindle and Paperback on Amazon

Gaia’s Majesty-Mission Called

Gaia’s Majesty-Challenge: The Chosen Rise – Book 2

Available Now in Kindle and Paperback on Amazon

These people, called Tethyans, live in cities in the sea but can morph into fully human form and come to land to form families. They join with the warrior women called the Andromeda to fight against the forces working to impair the future of humankind. Avery has found her birth name of Chantia and she and Beck find there is soon to be a child of seeming great import just as the world falls into terrible strife with millions already dead. 

Available Now in Kindle and Paperback on Amazon

Gaia’s Majesty-Challenge

In Defense of Our Democracy

We have continuing evidence about who Trump surrounds himself with. One after the other we see corrupt cabinet officials and others. His present Labor Secretary has been complicit in covering for a serial child molester/rapist. The evidence of the corruption of Trump and his cronies just keeps mounting. What is even more shocking is that at least 40% of the American public are devoted to Trump. For a time I thought it might be just a matter of the information they were getting. But the coverage of the corruption is so widespread that they must be hearing about it and their continuing devotion is extremely shocking.

As a psychologist I need to make one thing perfectly clear. What Epstein did is not something that has a temporary effect on his victims. Many of these girls were already vulnerable because of family dysfunction. He seized on their vulnerability. And what he did is being defended.

The experience these girls had was traumatic, will almost surely permanently warp their self image and self esteem. They go forward in their lives with post traumatic stress disorder. Even worse, society contributes to the damage. Too often girls who are raped or mistreated in this fashion are then unfairly viewed as soiled and are rejected. In the stories of these women who were raped we hear that they avoid the word “rape” because of the impact on how many people see them and what it does to their self esteem. It is totally unfair and immoral to treat a vulnerable victim in this fashion.

The larger picture is increasingly distressing. Trump supporters stand with and applaud him as the future of our democracy is endangered. Our relationships with our allies are being trashed and our departments corrupted. There seems to be a reticence to confront these issues about Trump supporters openly but we must. Do they not care that the integrity of our precious country is being shredded? Do they not care about what that means for the future of their children and grandchildren?

If Trump’s supporters will not stand up for our country and help put an end to this widespread corruption, then it is up to the rest of us to defend our country and that means every one of us getting out to vote. If you have not voted before, you need to now. And the rest of us must be sure we return to the voting booth.

I never thought I would see this day. Our country must be defended.

A Focus on Transformation

Stunning Alternatives

Recently I mentioned that while this blog is titled Cusp of Reality that I’m redirecting it more to the issue of transformation. I need to explain what that means.

I’ve been on this earth awhile and certainly I’ve seen periods of crisis and turns toward productive development. But I’ve never seen the potential for the development of such vastly different transformations.

America in Crisis

I know I’m writing a blog about the cusp of reality and now am directing it  toward transformation. While part of my endeavor presently is to promote my Gaia’s Majesty series, in its development the issue of transformation has emerged. At this moment, I’m being led to comment on my view of the crisis America finds itself in. The news is dominated by the issues we see in our government. In the commentary it is repeated over and over that almost everything is about politics. I fundamentally disagree.

A brilliant old man I took classes from when I was in college talked about culture and things such as cultural flow. His illumination shines on what we are seeing presently. 

The kind of crisis we are enduring is not the product of a single election. This is a welling up of culture and various associated processes. We have opened a view of undercurrents and differing groups within our society. These groups did not materialize overnight. They were there all along but were often hidden from our sight.

World Transformation

America’s crisis is weighing heavily on what is happening in the world. Since World War II America  has been a stabilizing influence. Now, with an unstable and deeply pathological narcissistic president we have not just abandoned the world but are feeding its deterioration. 

Not long ago we had the hope of the Arab Spring and saw blossoming regimes in Europe. Now the Middle East is in dire conflict with our government contributing. We are seeing instability in such places as Great Britain, France, Italy, Poland with other tremors across Europe. 

Shortly It may be that burgeoning conflict of a level not seen since World War II will appear. The processes leading to World War I and World War II were not the product of careful design but of forces out of control. It seems we are at such a time again.

Transformation of America

What we see in our country is not a pretty sight. We are floundering and it is clear that there is a very strong element of corruption operating in both government and business. For decades now there has been a deterioration which has led us away from solving problems as our culture changed and we are entering a stressful world with rapid technological change.

What is happening is not just politics although there are political tremors. Much of it is cultural upwelling and rapid change in which we are not in charge. Even though many of the effects may be seen in the political realm there are many other elements of note. 

One of them is the stunning movement to empower women at last. I watch in awe as bright, determined women appear before us. At last we are coming to see the significant potential in half our population and it breeds wonder and hope-as well as opposition.

As positive elements flower they bring with them attention to factors in our lives which are of great import. We are coming to understand that we need to attend to change among men, defining a future for the people we call the left behinds, long overdue reform of our health care system, climate change (114 degrees in Paris this week)  and on and on.

These few themes and items noted are merely part of the flood nationally. Ahead I will be selecting some of them for more detailed comment.

Choice Point

These are the huge choice points we will select for transformation. Will we abet the decline of world relationships to lead us deep into terrible world crisis or will we face our own dilemmas, work for constructive problem solving and turn the corner to renew our stabilizing influence in the world? We will see shortly.

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Don’t Miss My Developing Gaia’s Majesty Trilogy

I refer to it as a work of magical realism. It is a series with a strong mythological element and a real world setting in this time when women are being empowered at last. It is a time of wonder and awakening for all of humankind.

Gaia’s Majesty-Mission Called: Women in Power – Book 1

Avery had dedicated her life to work for the future of third world women. Her life was enhanced when she met the man who became the love of her life. They could not know that they shared a destiny and that a mission set long ago by our Earth Goddess was to be revealed before 

them. 

Available Now in Kindle and Paperback on Amazon

Gaia’s Majesty-Mission Called

Gaia’s Majesty-Challenge: The Chosen Rise – Book 2

These people, called Tethyans, live in cities in the sea but can morph into fully human form and come to land to form families. They join with the warrior women called the Andromeda to fight against the forces working to impair the future of humankind. Avery has found her birth name of Chantia and she and Beck find there is soon to be a child of seeming great import just as the world falls into terrible strife with millions already dead. 

Available Now in Kindle and Paperback on Amazon

Gaia’s Majesty-Challenge

The World Did Not End

 

A Former Client

Recently a former client contacted me. She conveyed the success she and her second husband had had in part due to the advice they had received. They handled the divorce effectively and helped the children. They just celebrated their 36th. year of marriage and are a family with six children and grandchildren. It can be done.

Difficult Times

A marriage ending in divorce is a very difficult time. It is not just for the marital partners but the children as well. 

Well over forty years ago my first marriage ended in divorce. We had two young daughters who felt deep distress. At the same time another couple was coping with a divorce involving two young sons.  As it happened we were all friends.

Moving On through Pain

By truly great good fortune the other woman and I found we were interested in a relationship, The process ended in our marriage and we brought our four children together in the new marriage. If it sounds auspicious, it was not that simple. Understandably the children were not thrilled about divorces nor a remarriage. 

The events propelled my new wife and I into a new career. I was a clinical psychologist and my wife went back to school and became a clinical social worker. We opened a practice serving stepfamilies.

The Bottom Line

Through our divorces we learned some truths. The conflict between the divorcing couples must be brought under control. The children definitely do not want a new family. They want the old one back. 

There are realities which must be built. A new marriage must survive and the children must be directed to accept a new future. The bottom line is that it can be done.

My Future

We had to bring our clinical expertise to our picture and the picture of others. We recognized some things and served hundreds of families. Generally it is the woman who calls for help. Too often she is taken into individual therapy. And with children in crisis often one of them is also taken into individual therapy.

We saw a different way forward. When the woman called she was asked to bring her new husband with her. They needed information about how to build their new marriage and how to help the children navigate the crisis. The expectation was that the new marriage could thrive in time and the children could be guided to their new future.

The Outcome 

The process tended to work quite well. We knew the adjustment period was generally five to eight years but ongoing therapy was not necessary. Guidance was. With our approach we worked with hundreds of families and the average duration of help was just eight sessions for the couple. They were given guidance and ways to handle their own crises and help the children adjust. 

My wife and I are now approaching the celebration of our 44th. year together. Our children are thriving. It can be done. 

A Book for Surviving Divorce and Remarriage

My wife and I wrote a book to help professionals and stepcouples respond to divorce and the children in crisis. Stepfamilies: Professionals and Stepcouples in Partnership by Mala S. But, M.S.W. and Roger B. Burt, Ph.D. It outlines how they can work together to overcome a difficult period. We thought our approach needed to be out there because too often we saw people being put in individual therapy while management by the couple was the way forward. The book is available on Amazon in Kindle and paperback formats.

Stepfamilies: Professionals and Stepcouples in Partnership     

by Mala S. Burt, M.S.W. and Roger b. But, Ph.D.     

 Available on Amazon

Issues Pending

In this difficult era there are many issues pending. I just touched on divorce and remarriage and the common crises involved. Among other things n future posts I will begin to delve into our health system. Many years ago I was deeply involved in a reform movement. It ended badly but illustrates an ongoing crisis in our struggling health care system in need of reform.

There Is Sadness in America

 

First of all I have to clarify something about the context of this post. As a clinical psychologist it is my job to read people and how they are feeling. Most of the time I leave that door closed. It takes energy I don’t need to expend it for no particularly purpose. But presently I find feelings around me intruding.

Let me give three examples of things I have experienced recently.

A Simple Procedure 

I went in to get blood drawn recently and when I do the blood vessels in my arms go into hiding. Often it is difficult for the technician to find them. In this instance the woman did a basic evaluation, inserted the needle and got blood at once. I said, “It’s so nice to work with the A team.”

The look on her face was heart warming. A woman who had looked despondent became animated and happy. To me all I had said was a form of thank you and it seemed to have important meaning to her. I noted the discrepancy.

It Was Only Breakfast

Next incident. We had to go to the West Coast for a graduation and one morning we were in the terminal looking for something to eat. The offers were uninspiring until I found a man selling roasted chicken legs which looked meaty. They were quite good and I went up to the man who seemed to be making an effort to stay positive. When I told him how pleased I was, the joy on his face was touching. Once again, I had given a simple thank you.

No Big Deal

Third incident recently. I stopped at a small convenience store. There was a pleasant young woman who checked me out. She asked if she could offer a discount card and I declined. but I said, “Thank you for asking.” You would have thought I had given her high praise but she had been uplifted.

Paying Attention

These kind of incidents have come to be notable to me recently. At once I feel there is an indication that Americans are  being anything but inspired. In fact they seem mired and too often fundamentally joyless as if the future holds little for them and all they can do is struggle forward.

In fact, they re conveying how their lives are. We live in Trumpdom and an aura of widespread corruption. This is not the America I have known and we need to attend. There are people in Congress working for us and some are corrupt and work against us but fundamentally if we are to restore America we must all come out and vote in 2020 and bring back people with vision and dedication to our country.

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Don’t Miss My Developing Gaia’s Majesty Trilogy

I refer to it as a work of magical realism. It is a series with a strong mythological element and a real world setting in this time when women are being empowered at last. It is a time of wonder and awakening for all of humankind.

Gaia’s Majesty-Mission Called: Women in Power

Avery had dedicated her life to work for the future of third world women. Her life was enhanced when she met the man who became the love of her life. They could not know that they shared a destiny and that a mission set long ago by our Earth Goddess was to be revealed before 

them. 

Available Now in Kindle and Paperback on Amazon

Gaia’s Majesty-Mission Called

Gaia’s Majesty-Challenge: The Chosen Rise – Book 2

These people, called Tethyans, live in cities in the sea but can morph into fully human form and come to land to form families. They join with the warrior women called the Andromeda to fight against the forces working to impair the future of humankind. Avery has found her birth name of Chantia and she and Beck find there is soon to be a child of seeming great import just as the world falls into terrible strife with millions already dead. 

Available Now in Kindle and Paperback on Amazon

Gaia’s Majesty-Challenge

This Is Not The America I Thought We Were

 

The World Opens

In 1945 my aunts took me to a victory parade on Fifth Avenue in New York. Masses of troops paraded down the Avenue to a cheering crowed with planes flying low above. It was an unforgettable experience

World War II had seemed distant with only an occasional intrusion such as the night I was seated in a window seat looking out at a darkened city and dim sparkles of light in the rain. There came a knock on the door. It was our block captain cautioning us about our blackout curtains being open. My father was a surgeon and had an A sticker on his car indicating he could buy gas when he needed it. My mother peeled off stickers for food. Otherwise I was an innocent.

Collectively We Rejoiced

We watched as towns sprouted to house the families created by returning troops. In 1952 we sat late into the evening before our twelve inch black and white television and cheered as we watched the election of our hero Dwight Eisenhower to the presidency. 

The early years assured I would watch events in our country and the world with great interest.

When I graduated from college at the University of Michigan my new wife and I moved to North Carolina where I was to begin my studies for my doctorate in clinical psychology.

Early Painful Revelations

It was the 1960s and the civil rights movement was growing. I was shocked at the racism I saw and, as the child of a privileged family at the discrimination I experienced because I was a “Yankee”. My interest and distress deepened as I worked to serve the impoverished people in the inner city of Baltimore.

One of the things I learned in college was about cultural flow from the impressive Leslie White, the father of cultural anthropology. What he taught stayed with  me and I could see that culture and its impact were all around us and changing constantlyl. I learned to detach it from politics which is only part of the picture.

It is About Culture. Not about Politics

Presently we are making the mistake of reducing everything to politics. What is happening now is an outgrowth of who we are and I am truly shocked to see it. I never expected to see someone like Trump elected president and do not view him as representative of a political party. The narcissism and corruption is shocking. And as someone who grew up in a Republican family I do not know who these people are who claim to be Republicans. I view them as betraying our country.

Even worse I see 40% of our country supporting Trump. I truly did not know they existed and I see them as betraying themselves and their future. I not only did not know this about our country but hope that we can salvage ourselves. 

I am especially disappointed in the men who lean more heavily into the dysfunction. It seems that our women have a much better perspective.

If we do not win this battle against this turn of culture we will not only damage our future but the future of the world as well. instability is growing across Europe and we are seeing corrupt regimes which are damaging much other relations.

We will see shortly but I clearly believe that our future will be created in the election of 2020. If we rise to the occasion we can turn our destiny back toward who we thought we were or descend deeper into something we thought unimaginable.

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Don’t Miss My Developing Gaia’s Majesty Trilogy

I refer to it as a work of magical realism. It is a series with a strong mythological element and a real world setting in this time when women are being empowered at last. It is a time of wonder and awakening for all of humankind.

Gaia’s Majesty-Mission Called: Women in Power – Book 1

Avery had dedicated her life to work for the future of third world women. Her life was enhanced when she met the man who became the love of her life. They could not know that they shared a destiny and that a mission set long ago by our Earth Goddess was to be revealed before them.

(Available now in Kindle and paperback on Amazon.)

Gaia’s Majesty-Mission Called

Gaia’s Majesty-Challenge: The Chosen Rise – Book 2

These people, called Tethyans, live in cities in the sea but can morph into fully human form and come to land to form families. They join with the warrior women called the Andromeda to fight against the forces working to impair the future of humankind. Avery has found her birth name of Chantia and she and Beck find there is soon to be a child of seeming great import just as the world falls into terrible strife with millions already dead. 

(Available now in Kindle and paperback on Amazon.)

Gaia’s Majesty-Challenge

Men! Who Are We?

 

I’ve written several posts exploring the empowerment of women and supporting the changes. It is now time to begin to explore men, who they really are, and what is driving them.

Time to Challenge Our View of Men and View of Ourselves

Some might say we already know all about men. As a psychologist I have to challenge that assumption. I don’t think we know a great deal because what drives and defines men is deep in their physiology, their personalities, peer relationships, their culture, the overall culture and on and on.

Empowerment Is Merely a Beginning

Women have opened the way for us and it is time. As I thought about this post I saw a deep challenge. I found I could not even begin to raise a comprehensive view or ask all the needed questions.  Extensive exploration is required, and research, as we rush into our future at a faster and faster pace.

A Few Issues

Let me raise a few issues which came  to mind.

Men – Male Culture

What is the shape, form and detailing of what we might call male culture?

Power – Often we see men as being dominated by the quest for power. I doubt it is so simple. Seeking power can be compensatory, fear induced, have specific goals about which the man may not be clear at all. Etc.

Sexuality – Certainly there is a drive but what is it related to? There is a great deal of complexity there.

Sports tyranny – I was never into competitive sports. Above all I have been dedicated to exploring the “what if”. The pressure to be dedicated to sports among boys was always intense. One day when I was nine two boys were fighting over whether one was out or safe. I got fed up, walked off the ball field for good and rode away on my bike into wonder.

Suppression of women – At the forefront right now is the issue of the suppression of women. It is often led by men but there are also some women who support it as well. Surely men are central but when we look at it, it goes beyond men into the larger culture of our societies. 

Men – Self Image

How does a man define himself? What does that man expect of himself?

Too often the image of what it means to be a man is assumed to be global. It is not. There should be room for breadth and diversity but especially in adolescence there is little room.

Men Versus women

Certainly men seek love and sex and weave women into their desires to build a  future with them. But when we delve a little deeper we get into a stunning complexity. Men are expected to take the initiative which also leaves them open to rejection and problems of self esteem. Can he please her, engage her, respond sexually and on and on. Adolescence is a time of challenge and change. It can leave deep scars which impact women as well. And one thing I hear little of is men’s reaction to their women giving birth. Women are the ultimate creator of human life. Men make a brief contribution and do support her but the baby is her special wonder. How men truly handle it remains a secret. 

The Meaning of Partnership 

The research – Certainly there is research out there but what I am suggesting is greater nuance and exploration. I don’t think we know as much as we think we do. We see wonderful marriages and partnerships but we also see many underlying issues which get in the way of fulfillment and partnership. And what of our personal exploration. A very challenging topic.

There! I Opened the Encyclopedia

This post was difficult because I found so many pathways opening. This is nothing but a totally inadequate probing of a whole field of study. Some might say it has been extensively studied. I do not agree.

Let me hear from you and I will, over time, seek to continue the exploration.

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Don’t Miss My Developing Gaia’s Majesty Trilogy

I refer to it as a work of magical realism. It is a series with a strong mythological element and a real world setting in this time when women are being empowered at last. It is a time of wonder and awakening for all of humankind.

Gaia’s Majesty-Mission Called: Women in Power – Book 1

(Available now in Kindle and paperback on Amazon.) 

Avery had dedicated her life to work for the future of third world women. Her life was enhanced when she met the man who became the love of her life. They could not know that they shared a destiny and that a mission set long ago by our Earth Goddess was to be revealed before them.

Gaia’s Majesty-Challenge: The Chosen Rise – Book 2

(Available now in Pre-Order and goes on sale April 29 on Amazon)

These people, called Tethyans, live in cities in the sea but can morph into fully human form and come to land to form families. They join with the warrior women called the Andromeda to fight against the forces working to impair the future of humankind. Avery has found her birth name of Chantia and she and Beck find there is soon to be a child of seeming great import just as the world falls into terrible strife with millions already dead. 

Echoes From The Past

 

Life’s Promise

Somehow we have a dream that a stable and glorious future will open before us. It is unlikely. Our lives are not ours alone because we share it with family and intimates, but also must share it with the world at large which is not under our control. But the past has a way of reaching out to us which is not necessarily a bad thing. It may tell us about how the world is and such things as the variability of opportunity. 

From My Past

In 1967 (yikes that’s a long time ago) I took a job in the inner city of Baltimore. I was one of the first people hired in one of the first community mental health programs in the country. I was just leaving Duke with my doctorate in hand and I was definitely ready to depart academia. The whole idea of community mental health was to bring mental health services to the public using a public health model. It was a marvelous idea.

Wait a Minute!

But there was not just one problem. Communities are different, and because of that the whole idea of applying the medical model to our inner lives was flawed and established practice is not so easily changed.

I was given an office and told to give service. But there was no one there except for a woman social worker. She led me out into the city and steadily the staff grew. Young professionals learned about the community and what it needed. It was tumultuous and fascinating.

Wait Another Minute!

But in some ways the least of our problem was adapting services to a poverty environment in chaos. An even larger problem proved to be the conservatism of the mental health establishment. All they wanted was the grant money and the glory of having landed funding for a “glamorous” enterprise. They had been providing services by psychiatric residents and medical students on six week rotations. We dug in our heels. The people of that community needed reliable ongoing services, not a series of inexperienced people passing out medication. Granted, our group of twenty somethings were inexperienced, but we were dedicated as a group to learning fast and meeting real needs. 

What We Concluded

What we found was a need for life management  in a form of partnership. Many “mental health” problems were an outgrowth of the dynamics of the poverty environment more than anything else. Of course, it was much more complicated than that but that is a rough outline. But we had found that a highly beneficial set of services and programs could have been focused.

In the End

At last though, those in power are in power after all. In time the bright eyed, groundbreaking young people moved on and the higher powers invoked a retrenchment. The community based clinics were closed, staff was withdrawn to a central building and business as usual restored.

Across the country the reform movement of that era was coming to an end.  And with its end came the end of community mental health. I tell the whole story in my book Whatever Happened to Community Mental Health.

Now the Lesson

Yes, community mental health came too soon and its time is still not yet at least until we get through our present upheaval when a younger generation with vision may take power.

But, looking back we can see something. On the street we learned a huge amount about such communities, but all the data was kept in our heads and used to formulate a highly focused, problem solving service system. If a system with managers of more vision were to be devised now, the information technology at our fingertips could help us sift, store, integrate and develop data for a viable system. And it could be adapted to fit the community at hand—whatever its form. Then we would truly have a community mental health system, but probably with a more refined name. And if we had had information technology we could have documented and built.

Coming back to one of my original points, I can see that something from the past can be brought forward to a much more adapted use at a future time when new tools and vision are available.

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Don’t Miss My Developing Gaia’s Majesty Trilogy

I refer to it as a work of magical realism. It is a series with a strong mythological element and a real world setting in this time when women are being empowered at last. It is a time of wonder and awakening for all of humankind.

Gaia’s Majesty-Mission Called: Women in Power – Book 1

(Available now in Kindle and paperback on Amazon.) 

Avery had dedicated her life to work for the future of third world women. Her life was enhanced when she met the man who became the love of her life. They could not know that they shared a destiny and that a mission set long ago by our Earth Goddess was to be revealed before them.

Gaia’s Majesty-Challenge: The Chosen Rise – Book 2

(Available now in Pre-Order and goes on sale April 29 on Amazon)

These people, called Tethyans, live in cities in the sea but can morph into fully human form and come to land to form families. They join with the warrior women called the Andromeda to fight against the forces working to impair the future of humankind. Avery has found her birth name of Chantia and she and Beck find there is soon to be a child of seeming great import just as the world falls into terrible strife with millions already dead. 

Men! Its Time!

 

Time to Explore

It is clear this is when women are to become empowered. Do we stand on the sidelines and wish them well or oppose what must come?

There is a third alternative. Seize the moment to look at ourselves so that we may have perspective on who we are in history and who we are to become. I’m finding our silence stunning. Certainly some of us are embedded in one of the other two alternatives but I hear precious little about who we are to become. In fact, I hear little discussion of who and what we are.

Beyond Alternatives

Perhaps the most compelling possibility right now is not whether we support or oppose the women’s movement. I would suggest it is time for us to decide about our identity and the future we might choose.

As I’ve explored thoughts about what is happening I find I am sifting issues about politics and power. In our current climate I find almost everything these days is reduced to politics and I find that narrow. At the same time I see a lot which seems related to power. Not just power among men in our government but whether our response to the women’s movement is about our view of our power—over women.

Why Power?

It is so curious that we are having this crisis. Yes, it is a crisis because, like or not, the outcome of the empowerment of women is a world changing process. If what men are fighting is about power then we have an issue which badly needs attention. Why the hell do we need to have power over women?

Are we so insecure that we think we must have control over women. If we have fallen in love with her, are we afraid she will leave us? Does that mean we hold ourselves in such low regard? Certainly relationships and marriages break up. Do we fear the process of life so much that we have to maintain a grip over women and for what reasons? Or do we have such a low understanding of what is being demanded of us that we fear any change?

More Questions 

This whole issue about men in the era of women’s empowerment is driving me down a path with many more questions than answers. At base It is my feeling that men badly need to examine themselves. One way to put it is that it is almost as if men need to be empowered. And that is not about having power over women but about the possibility of our own insecurity and fear of inadequacy.

Answers

Surely there are answers but I caution us against an easy dismissal. We really need to look at ourselves. The pictures of the freshman class in the House of Representatives was stunning. On the one hand was the picture of white Republican men in dark suits. On the other was a picture of Democrats with a large contingent of women in multiple colors. Was it past and future?

When I started writing this post I thought i had a focus. But when I began to explore I found I had no focus because I think men need to explore what has not been explored. And I feel we cannot accept easy answers and dismissals.

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Don’t Miss My Developing Gaia’s Majesty Trilogy

I refer to it as a work of magical realism. It is a series with a strong mythological element and a real world setting in this time when women are being empowered at last. It is a time of wonder and awakening for all of humankind.

Gaia’s Majesty-Mission Called: Women in Power – Book 1

(Available now in Kindle and paperback on Amazon.) 

Avery had dedicated her life to work for the future of third world women. Her life was enhanced when she met the man who became the love of her life. They could not know that they shared a destiny and that a mission set long ago by our Earth Goddess was to be revealed before them.

Gaia’s Majesty-Challenge: The Chosen Rise – Book 2

(Available now in Pre-Order and goes on sale April 29 on Amazon)

These people, called Tethyans, live in cities in the sea but can morph into fully human form and come to land to form families. They join with the warrior women called the Andromeda to fight against the forces working to impair the future of humankind. Avery has found her birth name of Chantia and she and Beck find there is soon to be a child of seeming great import just as the world falls into terrible strife with millions already dead. 

Are We Kidding Ourselves – Pt. 4

Your Invitation to Join the Roger B. Burt Street Team:

While this new age of technology is enchanting, there is a problem with isolation. I’d like for us to do something else.

I’ve been sharing my thoughts about the links I see with my Gaia’s Majesty series. I’d be interested in your comments and for exchanges to be possible. If you would like to know more, send me a note at roger.burt@earthlink.net. 

And Now Today’s Post

The Cusp of Reality

The Arena of Truth

The world is considerably less stable than we generally wish it to be. Yet, it usually offers us a definition we grasp. In it we find a place of safety. I’ll call that place the arena of truth. What an odd thing to call it. The word arena brings up an image of conflict. Well, the fact is that we live in conflict. Its just that we often know how to dismiss it and confine it. And when we define truth we feel we have found safety.

Conventional Reality

Another term for this place is conventional reality. Others help reinforce its guidelines and we come to believe in its truth. If we are fortunate we find peace and tranquility although our inner self (with its own definition) may remain insistent. That is where we live if our society is stable.

The tranquil place helps us to manage problems and support tranquility. If we are truly fortunate there is equality among us. At the edges conflict always seems to be searching for an opening. From time to time there is instability but if the foundations are sound, it is brought under control.

Deluding Ourselves with the Help of Others

Around us are a system of beliefs and others beckon us to join them in a common celebration of them. The alternatives are not pretty. To be utterly alone is not what we seek. We generally seek and find comfort. But what we see over and over is how tenuous our circumstances may be. There are times when we see the process broken as when war comes to rage.

The Call to Change

Always in us there are two voices. One voice calls on us to maintain calm and stability while the other calls to seek change. The latter voice is more common in the young and fades with the decades unless there is something that remains unresolved. We all see people in later years who break free from how their life has been. Often the consequences are dire.

But, if we can manage it, the other call is one beckoning with a new dawn. Some people are able to master this call leading to a fruitful life in which peril is contained. What we do not wish to seek is to find a place of darkness over and over.

The Call to Writing Fiction and Reading Literature

Writing offers many of us a safe opportunity. A story and characters are created. Because of the devotion to the activity the author can enjoy life with the characters and if they prove troublesome dismiss them with the “stroke of a pen”. The same goes for the path of the story.

We can create a world which is safe as our characters frolic or solve their challenge with us safely along for the ride. Naturally the same thing goes for the reader of fiction. They can seize a story or end it with a hand movement. How glorious to have these opportunities.

The wonderful thing is that with proper management we often can construct a pleasing world and that form of kidding ourselves is productive and fulfilling.

Gaia’s Majesty-Mission Called: Women in Power by Roger B. Burt

Roger B. Burt’s Amazon home page

Creating Characters and Plots by Roger B. Burt

Stepfamilies: Professionals and Stepcouples in Partnership

Whatever Happened to Community Mental Health by Roger B. Burt