Older White Men – Facing the Future At Last

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Older White Men – Facing the Future at last

I’m now an older white man and I’ve been upset with and at odds with my male colleagues for over fifty years.  And now I believe the issues are coming to a head and we are finding and seeing bad alternatives such as with Trump and his demonstration of the behavior of an unstable sociopath. Fortunately, while I’ve had my problems with  older white men they were usually at least manageable.

An Enduring Lesson 

I hadn’t thought about men and power much until I took a job in the inner city of Baltimore in the 1960s.  At the time the Women’s Liberation Movement was beginning and I found myself working with young, bright women among the men.  Our mission in behalf of delivering mental health services to impoverished citizens in the inner city brought it all to a head.

Naturally the heads of the program were older white men and my perception was that they  had little dedication to our mission to serve the people of Baltimore.  They wanted the grant money, preservation of their status and continuation of the type of programs they had been offering. We had a major confrontation when they wanted to bring in medical students to give the people we were serving a week of therapy and drugs.  It was so outrageous to us that there was a major, direct confrontation. Higher class medical student could do nothing in a week for lower class people and medication suddenly offered indicated no utility. To the surprise of the older white men we made our objections prevail.

See It For What It Is

       The fight continues and this fall it seems there my be what is called “a blue wave” in the interim election. I object to the term because it represents politcalization of changes which should not be politicized.Certainly there is politics involved but we are seeing a worldwide movement to empower women at last which should have a major impact.  That is the type of wave that interests me the most.

     The power of older white men shows up on many avenues and I would prefer it be seen for what it is.  Attention to women coming to equality and power interests me much more and should bring much needed changes.Together with attention to our growing minorities would be much more useful as well.

Waves of Change

      There are truly waves of change and I relish these waves we have seen over human history.  There is an ongoing wave within the black community.  Yes, I am referring to them as black because I was part of the reform movement the year Martin Luther King, Jr. was  assassinated. That was the year black was declared to be beautiful.  It has special meaning.

Time For Men to Face the Future

      Now it is time for men to choose a revolution of their own. And I do not mean choosing to fight to retain their hold on power only. Instead I strongly recommend introspection of alternative benefits and devotion to study the male culture and all its flaws.  Surely there are benefits but there have also been marked negatives. But the biggest benefits will come by embracing all our people and empowering women.

      These changes are coming at us and we would do well to tend the benefits and seek understanding.  It will benefit us all in unforeseen ways.  It is time for change and to turn away from the rigid grasp on power to a more diverse and glorious future!

Transformation: A World to be Imagined

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                                 Transformation: A World to be Imagined

What Lies Ahead?

     America seems to be at a profound choice point.   Will there be something beautiful and inspiring emerging in the end or a transfixing horror in our future? I prefer something glorious.  We may begin to see it unfold shortly or a nightmare may materialize in the mist.  In the end it is my belief that women hold the balance and wIll be the key.  They must be recognized.

My view of Life has Changed

     Earlier events led me to suspend the blog but now events are leading me to reopen the blog and the focus has changed.  We are facing totally unexpected crises that bring us the possibility of transformation.  Whether in the end it will be ruinous or uplifting is yet to become clear.  We will be exploring what might be and there are many emerging alternatives.  I have also found that I have been led to a life review.  As I studied my experiences I found clarity regarding events and avenues that profoundly affect our collective future as well as my personal future.

Returning to the Moment

     For the moment let me return to present reality. And I must make a statement that is not political, but rather clinical.  I am a clinical psychologist with a Ph.D from Duke University and have had decades of experience.  I was stunned and pleased when the book by Donald Trump’s niece came out. She is also a clinical psychologist and we agree on the diagnosis of him as a narcissistic sociopath who is unstable.  His focus on himself leads him away from the needs of our country.

     And even worse, many of our citizenry seem unwilling to face the devastation of our future that might come not just from such a thing as a pandemic but from failures of our government and a leader such as Trump. The problems extend beyond the White House to many of our political leaders. But it is important to remember that we may also be facing a grand fulfilling opportunity that we the people of this country may direct.

Conservatives and Progressives Together

     It is my view that for decades now we have been inadequately attentive to the needs of our country. In addition to the grasp on power by white men, a major contributor to the inattention for our broad needs has been a conservative movement that has become dismissive of their responsibility.

    

     To be clear, I have a high regard for true conservatives.  I consider myself to be a progressive and believe progressives and conservatives working together form an important source of benefit and balance.  It is inappropriate for conservatives to simply hold onto the past as if it were stone and it is inappropriate for progressives to simply hurl themselves into an unproven future. Together we form an essential balance as we consult and negotiate together.

    It is time for us to reach out to each other with respecting openness to diverse views and values. Yes, there may be a dark future but we may also direct it to the benefit of us all.  We must come together with respect and seize a grand vision of transformation that just may lie before us.

My Personal Response to Our Looming Crises

    I’m what is called an intuitive personality and it is intuition rather than pure logic that guides me.  The truth is that when I began to write my Gaia’s Majesty Trilogy I did not understand where it would lead me.  I knew my attention on the future but I didn’t understand the depths of feminism that would guide me.

    My life has led to the full recognition of the centrality of the grasp of older white men on power.  Now that I am an older white man I’m going to demonstrate my objection to their hold on our world.  My  books called Gaia’s  Majesty Trilogy will be one form and this blog will also give the history of my objections among many other themes.  My concerns are deep and my hopes for our future, especially when women are empowered, will be fully displayed.

     It is time to move forward but, in what we call the real world, it is hard to know to what.

Who Is Coming To Live At Your House?

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Who Is Coming To Live At your House?

     In most cases when we get married we expect to have children and many people don’t speak honestly of whom they hope is coming. There may be a clear statement regarding a boy or a girl and sometimes it is very specific as in a husband who is a sports fan and wants a son.

     In many cases people rarely express honest specifics.  As to it being a boy or a girl, they often speak about their hopes later, after the birth. The expression may be naive about the sex of the unborn child even to the self. The fact is, regardless of who you want, it is important to accept and love whomever comes.  Such is not a total reality and the effect on the chid may not become apparent for many years. And it is possible at times that either the man or the woman want no children. All of us have heard such honest statements and it deserves approval and support to seek self emotional solutions. The raising of children is not a simple process regardless.

      In my practice as a clinical psychologist I saw some strange examples. A man says, “I want a son.” He gets two sons and then sheds his wife, wanting to keep only the boys. A woman says she will accept who comes and with a second son or second daughter she leaves the marriage. The problems may occur with either parent at unexpected times and part of the problem may be that they may have never even been honest with themselves.

     In my practice I learned there were no common rules or clearly defined outcomes in regard to children. And many times when I saw a depressed child or adult it could often go back to not being wanted but it was not admitted at the time. What gets played out may be totally unexpected.

     Raising children is not easy.  The time needed is lengthy and difficult and they go through marked phases but we cannot define when those times may come. And children may have  a personality with nothing in common with either parent.

     Not wanting a child is often difficult for a parent whether it is a boy or a girl or just any child at all. Parental rejection is often hard to see and the effects may show up at almost any later date.

     Self examination is not generally declared as desirable for a parent, But deep inside it is important for us to declare whether we want a boy or a girl or if we don’t want either or none at all. Self ownership of feelings and perspectives is important and may be declared to the other parent.  Solutions are available but require the issue to be on the table.

Transformation: A World To Be Imagined

                                             

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Transformation  A World to be Imagined

What Lies Ahead?

   America seems to be at a profound choice point. Will there be something beautiful emerging in the end or a transfixing horror in our future?  I prefer the dream offered by the picture above.  We may begin to see it unfold shortly or a nightmare may materialize in the mist. In the end women will be the key and must be recognized.

Recent Events

For the moment let me return to the present reality.  And I must make a statement that is not political, but rather clinical.  I am a clinical psychologist with a Ph.D. from Duke University and have had decades of experience.  I was stunned and, I must say, pleased when the book by Donald Trump’s niece came out.  She is also a clinical psychologist and we agree on the diagnosis of him as a narcissistic sociopath who is unstable. His focus on himself leads him away from the needs of our country.

And even worse, many of our citizenry seem unwilling to face the devastation of our future that can come not just from such a thing as a pandemic but from failures of our government.  The problems extend beyond the White House to many of our political leaders.  But it is important to remember that we may also be facing a grand fulfilling opportunity that we the people of this country may direct.

Our problems are numerous and include the fact that we have a substantial gig workforce.  We say we have an unemployment rate of a specific kind but true reality is otherwise. A gig workforce includes people who are  without an ongoing and  stable employer.  The gig workers face short term and multiple forms of employment.  At the same time tragic events have mobilized the black and brown communities to make demands that are wholly justified.  This white man is clear that white men have dominated this country from its beginning, often with dire and corrupt consequences.  That needs to change and I will not forget the crucial growth of the empowerment of women.

Conservatives and Progressives Together

It is my view that for decades now we have been inadequately attentive to the needs of our country.  In addition to the grasp on power by white men, a major contributor to the inattention to our broad needs has been a conservative movement that has become dismissive of their responsibility.

To be clear I have a high regard for true conservatives.  I consider myself to be a progressive and believe that progressives and conservatives working together form an important source of benefit and balance.  It is inappropriate for conservatives to simply hold onto the past as if it were stone and it is inappropriate for progressives to simply hurl themselves into the future.  Together we form an essential balance as we consult and negotiate together.

It is time for us to reach out with respect and openness to diverse views and values. Yes, there may be a dark future but we may also direct it to the benefit of us all.  We must come together with respect and seize a grand vision of transformation that just may lie before us.

My Personal Response to Our Looming Crises

I’m what is called an intuitive personality and it is intuition rather than pure logic that guides me.  The truth is that when I began to write my Gaia’s Majesty Trilogy I did not understand where it would lead me.  I knew my attention was on the future but I didn’t understand the depths of feminism that would guide me.

My life has led to the full recognition of the centrality of the grasp of older white men on power. Now that I am an older white man I’m going to demonstrate my objection to their hold on our world.  The Gaia’s Majesty Trilogy will be one form and this blog will also give some of the history of my objections among many other themes.  My concerns are deep and my hopes for our future especially when women are empowered will be fully displayed.

It is time to move forward but, in what we call the real world, it is hard to know to what exactly. But it should be up to us to seek constructive ways to shape it to benefit all of us.

 

The World of Intelligence Intrigue

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The World of Intelligence Intrigue

Lately there has been a lot of attention regarding Russia and its authoritarian regime given its heinous attack on the Ukraine.  We have seen journalists and opposition leaders murdered.  That process is not characteristic of just recent Russian history.  I have a story  from my past which is germane  to current events and how we view our world.

Being in graduate school at Duke University working on my Ph.D. was fascinating in so many ways. The South was engaged in a civil war, I found myself deep  in Duke  University Medical Center and I was meeting all manner of fascinating people.

One day a new student arrived.  He was older than most of us snd had a heavy Russian accent.  How curious? In time I learned his name was Nicolai Khoklov and he had been head of the KGB operations for Eastern Europe.  One night we fed him ample vodka and he told us about how his life had been as a high level intelligence operative.  Like  so many people, he considered himself to have been a patriot.  But being a patriot of the kind he had been required to be turned out  to be a proposition he could not n the  end, suffer. He decided to defect.

Betrayed!

Of course intelligence was interested and he agreed on a condition. When he went on Radio Free America to announce his defection, his wife and children would be picked up by our people and taken out of Russia.  We didn’t honor our pledge and he lost his family.

Nonetheless he was true to his word partly because he could not accept the moral problems associated with the kind of murderous activities in which he had been involved.  Like other Russians working for reform, he was poisoned with a radioactive substance.  He survive and cane to the United States to study clinicsl pyshology.  Interesting choice.

Honor and Truth

He was a touching individual and I would never  have guessed his past.  He was such a gentle and respectful person with a rich sense of humor.  the stories  he told us that night were immensely troubling.  But his concluding statement about his past in intelligence was one I will never forget.  He said, “You think intelligence work is like James Bond.  It is, in fact, like Get Smart.”

In case you don’t remember Get Smart, it was a television comedy series about international intrigue.  The players on that stage were often inept if not just plain incompetent.  Nicolai was speaking a truth.

It was clear he meant the statement ad the details of his life bore out his conclusion.hat he conveyed was that we often have a view of things which we hold as truth.  But truth is illlusory and Nicolai’s story was yet another confirmation that we do, indeed, live onthe cusp of reality.

What do you think of Nicolai’s conclusion?

 

 

Police Reformation

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Police Reformation and  Transformation

Unintended Discoveries

When my graduate work was concluding and I was headed out into the world, my innocence was not apparent to me. In looking at the job in the inner city of  Baltimore I had been given a grand tour.  But only later did I come to see and feel the true extent and depth of the problems.

More Than Mental Health

Of course in my training and education I had come to assume that evaluation and psychotherapy were central. As it turned out the only thing that was central was the acceptance of the extent and reality of problems a person may face. In that  impoverished environment one truth was essential.  Poverty is a huge destructor of a person’s mental health.  It leads them into  depression and anxiety and down a steep dark hill from there.

In This Era

My experiences relate well to issues being examined now and it is clear to me that we not only need a truly in depth reevaluation of our society, but it has to be on ever so many fronts.  But for now let me focus on the police.  There  is now a cry in some quarters for the “defunding” of the police. The only definition of defending I could find meant ending all funding for them although it  seemed likely it meant refunding. Defunding would mean we would have no police at all. Defunding can only mean a horror.

Reevaluation

More to the point is a serious look at what we ask our police to do and decades ago I saw them being asked to do things that did not belong on their table.  I will select two. One is dealing with the mentally ill and the second is dealing with the homeless.  Neither of these issues are ever clearly distinct.

In the 1960s our job was to deal with the “mentally ill”. Well. Kind of.  Naively we began with a focus on the people referred to us by community agencies.   They were an extraordinarily diverse lot.  In time we were also told to work with the people who were in the state mental hospital and help them in their return home.  The employees in the state hospital saw us as intrusive.  But they had to accept our coming to see the people who were soon to leave.  Our experience was that we would arrive, go to the relevant nurse’s station and routinely it was empty except for a pile of folders.  Our presence was resented and the staff did not want to talk to us.

The Homeless

In general they were seen as simply unfortunate and we were usually not asked to see them.  One day my close staff friend and I went to a place where homeless gathered.  Their diversity was stunning. And often it is these people the police are directed to handle.  Some of them were mentally ill and many others simply stunningly unfortunate.  The stories were highly variable. Since then matters have gotten worse.  After additional wars there were more and more men coming with all types of post traumatic stress disorders.  Many ended up on the streets. This was hardly an appropriate population for the police.

The Broader Picture

The above are just a very limited sample of issues on the streets of our cities and beyond.  Too often we expect the police to deal with them and see to it that they are taken somewhere appropriate for care or help. Unless, of course, there are no appropriate places available.  It almost seems  that we do not want to deal with all these issues so we dump it in the hands of the police.

The Bottom Line

We do not need to defund the police.  We need  to do an in depth evaluation of what we are often asking them to do. And in doing so we are surely going to come face to face with the failure, not of the police, but of our society and how often we turn away from the problems of our people.  It is now past time for us to face ourselves and the issues we are not dealing with and not providing appropriate resources and systems for,

 

The Potential For World War III

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Vladimir Putin and World War III

I have been watching the news every day expecting at least a mention of the possibility of World War III.  I won’t say I’m disappointed. I’m surprised at the lack of speculation.

I watch Vladimir Putin with horror. This man is clearly devoted to his own aggrandizement.  I was young at the end of the Hitler era and in many ways see similar potential.  My maiden aunts took me to Fifth Avenue to watch the parade of celebration at the end of World War II.  As grand as that was, I  don’t want to see another one.

In horror now I watch the decimation of the Ukraine and its people.   Evidently Putin stole tens of thousand of tons of grain and our news programs show the terrible damage done to this country of innocent people.

I think I know why our leaders don’t talk about the possibility of a brutal escalation. They want nothing to do to invite an escalation.  Certain avenues of expression might invite a devastating escalation of terrible proportions because a man like Putin, believe it or not, can be fragile.

Putin stands in marked contrast to another powerful Russian i came to know personally.  It was in the halls of Duke University where we were introduced.

His name was Nicholai Khokhlov. I was a little more than surprised that he had, until recently born the head of Russian Intelligence for Central Europe  This gentle and delightful man had finally decided he wanted no longer to pursue his career in intelligence.  He contacted American Intelligence and made arrangements for his departure and for his wife and children.

We made arrangements for him but  we did not fulfill our promises for his family and the Russians took them.

Vladimir was poisoned but survived.  I have to say I was  so happy to meet this gracious and forthcoming gentleman.  I saw him as dedicated but he was anything but a blooming egotist like Putin. It is Putin who is guiding Russia but not in behalf of the people.  So far we do not have World War III and I hope it is not brought up in the news because it might encourage action on the part of an egotist with no values that would serve his own people.

Carl Jung’s Spirits

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 Carl Jung’s Spirits

Throughout life it is essential that we reshape our view of ourselves and possibilities.  It happens at each stage of our development.  Among the young they are instructed about new expectations or perhaps demands are made.  What we are told to expect may be broad and less focused as adults. Our view may be shaped markedly by other adults supporting demands on us.

In this instance, unexpectedly, I received a stunning expectation I could not have known was even possible.  It came from a man by the name of Carl Jung.  I never viewed him as being among the standard instructors concerning the human psyche.  His views were stunning and creative.

Jung viewed humans as having multiple levels, including spirit levels, that came to us with different effects.  The one that has such a stunning meaning for me was the opposite sex spirit who accompanies us throughout our life. I had forgotten Jung’s concepts until my female spirit came  clearly to accompany me.

Women have an eternal spirit companion named by Jung as her alumnus. Mine was an eternal female spirit companion known as my alumna.  I had no recognized experience of her until I came to recall Jung’s teaching.  My awareness and experience with the spirit world began shortly after my wife’s death.  I now understand my experiences began sharply with the opening of my spirit world.  And it was not narrowly focused.

My experience began at a time when there had been no birds hovering close to the house before my wife’s departure.  Suddenly there were two nests speaking to the joy of new life and, for the first time, I conversed with a rabbit who came and sat up close to me with a feeling that made it personal.  The opening did not end there.

I began to feel night “dreams” with deep and fulfilling images and feelings.  In the first “dream” I was walking past a dark forest at night.  From the darkness came a woman with dazzling dark hair and brilliant black eyes.  She was not frightening  but stunning.  Her eyes were fixed on me.  She spoke no words.  This continued for a few nights.  Then the scene of the dreams changed.

I was looking off into the distance across a large field ending in an ocean shore.  This time there were two women standing next to each other, looking out to sea.  One of the women looked very much like the dark haired woman I had seen other nights.  I didn’t dare to believe it.  But the other woman looked so much like my wife.

On succeeding nights I scanned the dream landscape.   On one evening the woman whom I thought might be my wife turned and waved.  It’s easy to dismiss the experience as merely a dream. But then my hopes ran high when I recalled the important and imaginative works of Carl Jung.  He indicated that we all have an eternal opposite sex companion who for men they call their alumna.  I assumed the dark-haired woman might be my alumna accompanying my wife.  Did it represent the possibility of a glowing future?  I could only hope that my alumna might be guiding us into a future together.

Given what Jung had indicated, he would certainly sanction acceptance of the possibility of a future together.  Of course, there may be spiritual persons of the opposite sex around us. Men may, indeed, have an alumna or eternal spirit who travels with them and women may have an alumnus or eternal male spirit who travels with them.  Such relationships and existence would clearly stabilize our adult and marital relationships.

Our lives remain alive when we recognize enchanting possibilities and they help us endure times of grief.  Focused imagination in general helps enrich our lives and add joy.  And the reality of the alumna and alumnus are truly enchanting when they bring the hope of reunion and joy.

 

Concerning Spirits Pt 2

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Concerning Spirits – Part 2

A Valley of Spirits

     Our search for a home to buy continued and at last we came to a valley that utterly enchanted me.  Initially it was simply because I loved the feeling of the river valley.  At the end of the yard ran a charming small river and we were surrounded by lush hills.

     When we first came to view it we had not made an appointment and simply entered the property.  We stopped and looked down the drive then drove down a side drive toward the barn.  The property seemed perfect for the horse my wife wanted but she did not have the same feeling about the atmosphere.  I did not care what the house was like.  I loved that valley.  It felt warm and cozy.  And when we were able to make a scheduled visit to the house my love deepened.  There was a two hundred year old stone antique.  It needed some work but it was impossible for me not to love it.  The feelings could not be described easily but were warmly welcoming.  There was no drama, just a soft coziness.  In my view it was to be the very special home we had sought.

The Setting

      The house had been built by one of the earliest settler families in the Pennsylvania area.   It was situated on what had been the original road from Baltimore, Maryland to York,  Pennsylvania.  Decades before the road had been moved but the original road could still be seen coming down the hill on the other side of the valley. It ran to the foundation of a former covered bridge.  The road could also still be perceived in our lawn and ran up a hill on our side of the valley.

      The house itself was calm.  We experienced none of the drama we had experienced in  the other house.  The outside was another matter entirely.

An Opening

     Evenings were lovely.  There was little noise from the highway and often there was a mist that generated a feeling of enchantment.  I often went out on the porch in the evening.  In time I began to see movement and finally from time to time I saw the shadowy form of horse drawn conveyances.  Some carriages stopped in front of the house as if dropping someone off.  But, again, there was no drama or fear.  It simply felt like the spirits of the past were still with us.

     And one morning when I got up I went out on an upstairs porch and looked toward the river.

Near the foundation of the bridge stood a man in what looked like a union uniform from the Civil War.  Shortly he faded.  Several more times I saw him. There was no hint of meaning.  Just an appearance.

A Living Valley

     I can’t see it any other way but that the valley was alive with spirits from its past.  There  was nothing in the area to disturb its longstanding environment.

     And then one night I felt a summons.  Behind the house was a small hill with the house cozied up to it.  The hill was lovely with trees and flowering bushes.  But generally there was nothing to lead me to spend time up there even as pretty and peaceful as it  was.

     That night, as the light faded, I felt drawn to walk up the hill.  Early in my life I had had a fear of the dark which had not faded much. The hill would have been dark shortly but I went anyway.  At the top I turned and walked into an area I had never visited.  I sat down and could dimly perceive a very large dark seated figure.  We said nothing to each other and I sat calmly for some time until the darkness had gathered and I felt it was time for me to return to the house.  I did not feel dismissed but felt a strange sense of completion and calm I could not explain.  In the days ahead it became clear to me that my fear of the dark had disappear.  I had to assume the spirit I had perceived had given me the gift of the release from the fear of darkness.

Through The Years

     The house and its valley always gave me a sense of beauty and there was the feeling of its spirited life of all kinds.  Why I was drawn there and what it represented never was clarified for me.  I was just grateful for the experiences.  It made me a firm believer in spirit worlds and I understand our biological lives do not demand us to be conversant with spirits or their worlds.  But now I have the feeling that we are biologically focused on a given form of reality but we are surrounded by a richness of spirits and alternative worlds we simply cannot perceive most of the time.  Perhaps when I move on from this life I will join another such world.